Do you have a tribe?
Most people do… although you may refer to them as something different. Your crowd, club, posse, troop, circle, crew, pack. You know what I mean…
I… have a tribe.
Like all tribes, mine is here to support and monitor my health and well-being. They are the people who bring out the best in me, and who have seen me at my worst. They also challenge me to go outside of my comfort zone, explore my shadows, and take that leap even when I have no idea where I’ll land.
They are the ones who say to me, “Jump — I’ll catch you. It’ll be worth it!”
My tribe has been doing quite a lot of catching this year. Caught in the depths of swirling doubt, anger, resentment, and confusion, I found myself on the edge of a very scary, deep and dark abyss more than once in the past 9 months or so.
When a brick landed in my chest where my heart used to reside, a member of my 8:20 tribe described in detail how that used to feel for her and assured me that the brick will melt away. Tears streamed down my face as she spoke those words to me. I never guessed that another person would know or understand how that brick feels, let alone have lived through it!
I recognize my good fortune in that my tribe not only consists of a sister, mom, sister-in-law, an 8:20 club, and other key players, but also a mermaid and a medicine woman.
My mermaid is the one who rescues me from the depths of the ocean. She assures me that I need to “stay up here — this is where you belong!”
My medicine woman is the one who has led me straight to the heart of those shadows and taught me to push through the resistance and fear to the other side all the while reminding me to “be kind to yourself”.
It’s the other side that makes all the difference. Want to know what I found there? Three things:
I have (for today) found a sense of peace, calm and contentment that I never dreamed possible. I stopped carrying the weight of the world and it’s (un)happiness on my shoulders. I have discovered that I can support, encourage, and love but cannot create happiness for anyone other than myself.
I’m writing this today to thank and acknowledge my tribe. It is much larger than I am making it appear here and I cherish and love every single one of you.
Now it’s my turn to do some catching…